Life, Liberty And The Pursuit....

...of minding your own fucking business.

A creed I try to live by. But I will intervene in cases where life and limb are in danger, if I sincerely believe I can help. I wasn't a volunteer firefighter for 19 years for nothing.

But, that has nothing to do with this post. Well, actually, since it's part of the post now, I guess it does.

Do try to keep up.

I am also going to intervene, when I hear of unwanted (and unwarranted) interference with family matters. "Family" being direct descendants. Not withering branches, in need of pruning, of so-called family trees.

A young couple, say early to mid-twenties, and by "couple", I mean they are together. Not married. No paperwork giving them the same name. But a very committed couple. Live together. Share expenses, etc.

As does happen, a (non-immaculate, I presume) conception occurs and the couple proceeds to inform their parents and assorted relatives in person. Not an announcement on Facebook or Twitter or a mass texting thread. They go, in-person, to each relative they wish to inform and which time and space,of their busy and now somewhat altered lives, allows.

They are handling it very maturely, in my opinion and are looking for no one's blessing as far as I can tell. Simply informing those they love of their future family.


Now I've heard, second or third-hand mind you, that upon hearing of said tidings, certain relatives of the aunt variety expressed their displeasure of the unwed status of said parents.

I know not of these aunties, their marital status, before or after any possible pregnancies, their sexual tendencies nor their religious or political flavors. I don't give a shit about any of it.

What I give a shit about is that they would dare voice their primitive, tight-assed, closed-minded ( a redundancy, I fear) opinions to two very capable, adults who felt sharing their personal life and experience in-person was of great importance.

The couple should not have to endure such uncouth commentary from family not directly in ascendance. (none of which, as far as I know, expressed any such commentary) Keep that clucking for the privacy of the clenched-anus hen house.

If it were within my family, anyone expressing this neanderthal attitude would get my wrath and be asked to not be involved any further with said expectant couple. No shower invitations, no birth announcements and certainly no invitation to the as-yet-unmentioned-and-for-all-I-know-non-existent wedding.

Worry about running your own pathetic, presumably empty lives and mind your own personal fucking business.

Congratulations to the expecting couple. Much happiness together with your growing future family!! And condolences on the fucking busy-body relatives you were born with. You have many  more who care about and love you without (much) judgement.